Compass Center is thrilled to partner this year with Wheels4Hope, a Raleigh-based non-profit organization dedicated to helping individuals purchase affordable vehicles and reach their self-sufficiency goals. Wheels4Hope accepts vehicle donations year-round, and many of these vehicles become program cars – valued in the $2,000-$4,000 range- which a limited number of eligible individuals referred by Compass Center and other partner agencies can purchase for $500 plus tax/tag/title fees. To learn more about eligibility, please call our office at 919-968-4610 or email Bridget McEnaney at firstname.lastname@example.org. To learn more about Wheels4Hope’s mission, as well as information on how to donate a vehicle, please visit their website at http://wheels4hope.org/.”
- Tell your loved one that she/ he don’t deserve to be treated badly and that no one deserves to be abused. This abuse is not their fault.
- Let your loved one know that there are ways to increase his/her safety, that she/he has options, and that, together, you can get the help that is needed. Compass Center for Women and Families can assist with the safety planning and with understanding options for dealing with the abusive situation.
- Tell this person what you have noticed that concerns you. Tell them that you believe (or know) she/he is being hurt or controlled. Tell him/her that you are concerned for his/her safety.
- Avoid focusing on the abuser. Keep this person out of the conversation as much as possible. Remember -your loved one has strong feelings for this person. Focus on your loved one, his/her safety, and your love and concern for him/her.
- Encourage him/her to call the Compass Center for Women and Families 24-hour hotline to speak with an advocate or to come in for an appointment.
- As the loved one of someone who is being abused you can call Compass Center for Women and Families hotline and receive support, information and abuse education.
Abusive relationships have devastating effects on everyone. Anyone in an intimate relationship can be abused. It can be difficult to discuss the abuse and to seek help. You can help if you think someone you care about is being abused.
Remember two important things when helping someone who is being abused:
- Change takes time.
- There is no single “right way” to help. The important thing is that you be there to support them in their decisions.
For people who have not been in an abusive relationship, it may be difficult to understand why a victim remains in a relationship and even “ covers up” for his/her partner. Both of these behaviors can be a direct result of living with a controlling partner. That person’s apparent indecisiveness and loyalty are essential tactics that she/he uses to survive. This does not mean that your loved one does not need and value your help. In fact, just the opposite is most likely true.
The hardest part of talking to a person who you believe is being abused is getting started. Be sure you have enough time and privacy for the discussion. The first conversation may not be easy but, to be of help, you must begin. Here are some suggestions to get started:
- You seem unhappy. Do you want to talk about it?
- What is it like at home for you?
- What happens when you and your partner disagree or argue?
- Are you scared of him/her? Does she/he threaten you?
- How does your partner handle things when she/he doesn’t get her/his way? What does he/ she do?
Support her/him for talking to you; she/he has taken a risk. Let him/her know that you appreciate what they have done and consider their feelings reasonable and normal. Let the other person lead the conversation. She/he needs you to be a good listener. Many people who are abused feel as though they don’t have options and are not able to get out of the abusive relationship. Talking with a loved one or a domestic violence advocate will help them to believe that options may exist. You can learn about domestic violence so you understand as much as possible about what they are experiencing.
Compass Center offers support group services for adults and children. These are an opportunity for individuals with shared experiences to come together, offer support to one another and work on their own healing process. Below are upcoming groups that we will be offering.
Self-Esteem Group: This 8-week group is open to women who want to work on building their self-esteem and encourage others in their own journey of personal growth. The focus of the group will be to provide support, encouragement, and information in a safe, nurturing, and confidential environment. Topics discussed in the group include self-compassion, self-care, and building connections with others. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. Screenings for this group are ongoing. Contact Connie at 919-929-3872 or email@example.com for more information.
Domestic Violence Support Group: This 8 week group is open to women who have experienced or are currently experiencing abuse in an intimate partner relationship including emotional, verbal, economic, sexual, or physical abuse. Topics discussed include dynamics of domestic violence, the relationship between thoughts and feelings, boundaries, managing emotions, self-esteem, and self-care. The group is free. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. Child care can be offered as needed. The next group will being the week of August 19th, weekday evening. Contact Connie at 919-929-3872 or firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
Divorce and Separation Support Group: This 8 week group is open to women who have experienced or are contemplating separation and/or divorce. The group will address common issues that women face during this process such as grief, loss, anger, self-esteem, anxiety, depression, legal and financial concerns, parenting/co-parenting issues, and managing change. The focus of the group will be to provide support, encouragement, and information in a safe, nurturing, and confidential environment. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. There is a $40 fee associated with this group, but can be waived as needed. Child care is offered upon request. Screenings for this group are ongoing. Contact Connie at 919-929-3872 or email@example.com for more information.
Art of Healing Workshop for Survivors of Domestic Violence: This Group is offered on the first Saturday of every month. Survivors of intimate partner abuse are invited to participate in these afternoons of art-making, processing, and community. Participants will be gently led through easy art and writing activities with a focus on expression, hope, healing, and strengths. No previous art-making or writing experience is required. Childcare can be offered upon request. Registration is required for each session. Contact Connie at 919-929-3872 or firstname.lastname@example.org to reserve your spot in the group.