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Fall Support Groups

Fall Support Groups

Art of Healing Workshop for Survivors of Domestic Violence: This Group is offered on the third Saturday of most months. Survivors of intimate partner abuse are invited to participate in these afternoons of art-making, processing, and community. Participants will be gently led through easy art and writing activities with a focus on expression, hope, healing, and strengths. No previous art-making or writing experience is required. Childcare can be offered upon request. Registration is required for each session. The next group will be Saturday July 19th, 2-4PM. Please RSVP.

Domestic Violence Support Group: This 8 week group is open to women who have experienced or are currently experiencing abuse in an intimate partner relationship including emotional, verbal, economic, sexual, or physical abuse. Topics discussed include dynamics of domestic violence, the relationship between thoughts and feelings, boundaries, managing emotions, self-esteem, and self-care. The group is free. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. Child care can be offered as needed. The next group will begin in mid-August 2014.

Survivor Led Writing Support Group: This 8-week group facilitated by survivors for survivors of domestic violence is being offered through a grant from the Orange County Arts Commission. The group will strive to create a safe place for writing, sharing and exploring different ways of using writing in the service of healing. A screening interview may be required to join the group. The group will begin in September 2014.

Domestic Violence and Substance Abuse: This 8-week group will be offered as a joint group between Compass Center for Women and Families and UNC Horizons. The group is open to women who have experienced are currently experiencing an abusive relationship and substance abuse. The group will be facilitated by a licensed therapist at Horizons and a trained domestic violence advocate from Compass Center. The group will begin in September 2014. If you are currently or have been a Horizons client, please contact Lauren Quick-Graham, MSW, LCSWA, Outpatient Therapist at 919.966.9803. All other prospective group members can contact Connie Carringer at 919-929-7122 or groups@compassctr.org.

Divorce and Separation Support Group: This 8 week group is open to women who have experienced or are contemplating separation and/or divorce. The group will address common issues that women face during this process such as grief, loss, anger, self-esteem, anxiety, depression, legal and financial concerns, parenting/co-parenting issues, and managing change. The focus of the group will be to provide support, encouragement, and information in a safe, nurturing, and confidential environment. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. There is a $40 fee associated with this group, but can be waived as needed. Child care is offered upon request. The next group will begin in October 2014.

Self-Esteem Support Group: This 8-week group is open to women who want to work on building their own self-esteem and encouraging others in doing the same through discussion, writing, and expressive arts. The focus of the group will be to provide support, encouragement, and information in a safe, nurturing, non-judgmental, and confidential environment. A screening interview is required to determine if the group is a good fit at the present time. Screenings for this group are on-going. The next group will begin in October 2014.

Start Transforming Your Resume Right Now

Start Transforming Your Resume Right Now
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Photo Credit: Flazingo LLC

Stand out among other applicants by adding the following 3 items to your resume. Your resume should be tailored to each employer, as what you have to offer may differ for each job — sometimes slightly, sometimes greatly.

Executive SummaryWho are you? How much experience do you have? What are the top skills you can bring to an employer? Your executive summary (also known as “Summary of Qualifications”) speaks directly to the employer. If an employer were only to look at the top one-third of your resume, does s/he know everything you want him/her to?
SkillsWhat do you know how to do that is relevant to the job you’re applying for? Look at the job description for each job as a starting point. List your skills as it applies individually to each position. Whether it be hard/soft skills, the employer wants to know that you can do what they’re asking for. Don’t be subtle — tell them why you’re perfect!
Significant Work ExperiencesWhat did you achieve at each of your former jobs? What will you be required to do in this position you’re applying for? If the job you held 10-15 years ago holds significant value, feel free to include it on your resume if you haven’t had a similar experience more recently.

Want to go a step further in your career exploration process? Call Compass Center to set up a one-on-one career advising appointment at 919-968-4610. Also, be on the lookout for upcoming career workshops.

The Violence Against Women Act: 1994 – 2014

The Violence Against Women Act: 1994 – 2014

We are all familiar with the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), at the very least because of its prominence in the news over the past year.  The controversy surrounding its renewal provides insight into larger cultural trends, specifically with regards to the work we do at Compass Center.  As such, this is a good opportunity to review the history of the act and its importance nationally and on the state level.

In 1994, Joe Biden introduced VAWA as a senator.  The act was a result of community efforts throughout the 80s and 90s, and as such, placed great importance on community-level anti-violence campaigns.  In addition to providing rape shield laws (prevents a victim’s sexual history to be brought up during cross-examinations) on a federal level, VAWA also provides support for a range of community violence prevention programs like those found at the Compass Center.  VAWA also ensures that victims of sexual assault do not have to pay for their own medical examinations.  Additionally, VAWA provides funding that goes towards training more than 500,000 law enforcement professionals to deal with domestic violence cases.  In these ways, VAWA directly affects our clients.

VAWA was up for renewal in 2012, and its opposition demonstrates the attitudes of social conservatives in the United States.  Though the Senate voted to reauthorize VAWA with some extended protections, the House rejected the reauthorization and instead provided its own version; the House’s proposed act limited crucial protections for Native women living on reservations, couples experiencing violence in same-sex relationships, and undocumented victims of domestic violence.  The legislative battle continued into 2013, until late February when the inclusive version of the bill finally passed the Senate. President Obama reauthorized the Act on March 7, 2013.

The House’s attempts to limit the efficacy of VAWA target the most vulnerable populations.  Victims of domestic violence who are in same-sex relationships are already less likely to reach out for help due to wide-spread stigma; legally prohibiting them from receiving protection would only further institutionalize this stigma.

Additionally, Native women are more likely to experience domestic violence than either their White or Black counterparts.  Not only that, they are more likely to be survivors of interracial assault, which results in limited ability to prosecute White offenders who perpetrate violence on reservations.  For these reasons, VAWA’s protection of Native communities is crucial.  North Carolinian practitioners especially should take note: North Carolina has the 6th largest Native population in the United States, with more than 110,000 Native Americans living in the state as of 2004.

Fortunately, the version of VAWA that was reauthorized is an inclusive version consistent with the vision and mission of the Compass Center.  The fight for an expanded reauthorized version demonstrates that sometimes, working for under-served populations means facing widespread institutional resistance.  However, the reauthorization is a chance for us to see our values reflected by our government, despite a long fight.

Thank You for Participating in the 2014 Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands!

Thank You for Participating in the 2014 Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands!

On March 7, more than 200 guests gathered at Top of the Hill’s Great Room for our annual Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands Art Exhibition and Sale. 5″ x 7″ anonymous mini-masterpieces from new and seasoned area women artists were available to view and purchase. Fabulous pieces by Andria Linn, John Rosenthal, John Svara, Barbara Tyroler and Renee Leverty were auctioned off and a dozen prizes were up for grabs in this year’s raffle drawing. Thanks to the support of many, we raised more than $54,000 to support our programs and services. We couldn’t have done it without the support of the community. Thank you! Photo Credit: Laura Shmania

Photo Credit: Laura Shmania

Presenting Sponsor
DWM Advisors

Gold Sponsors
Peggy and Gary Masse

Silver Sponsors
Anonymous
Clarkston Consulting
Performance AutoMall
UNC Health Care

Bronze Sponsors
Brock & Meece, P.A.
Counter Culture Coffee
Education and Training Systems, Intl., Inc
Franklin St. Partners
Gillian and Peter Hare
Grace Pilafian Landscaping
Lewis Anderson, PLLC
PHE
Tammi Brooks/501 Realty

Media Sponsors
Art Guide Now
Carolina Woman
Chapel Hill Magazine
News & Observer
WCHL
WUNC

Dessert Sponsors
Comfort Spot
Karin Mills, Spotted Dog
Mama Dip’s Kitchen
Moira Smullen
Springsfavoritethings.com

Friends Sponsors
Bagwell Holt
Bell Leadership
Donna Bennick
Jacob’s Capital
Ipas
Leah Ogden, Raymond James
Management Services on Call
Michael Jordan Nissan
Minta Bell
Nelson and Company
Peaches N Cream
Rho
Ritter Endodontics
Southern Village Pediatric Dentistry
Steve Pike, Investors Trust
Triangle Neuropsychology
Woodmansee and Szombatfalvy

In-Kind Sponsors
Cameron’s
Chapel Hill Toffee
DSI Comedy
Fearrington House Country Inn
Framer’s Corner
Healing Earth Resources
Ken Broun Jazz Group
Molly Maid of Chapel Hill
Shutterfly
Spira Pilates Studio
Top of the Hill
Trader Joe’s
Walt Disney Theme Parks
Wine and Design + Venable

Golden Circle Sponsors
Christine and Gerald Bell
Libby and Lee Buck
Perry Colwell and Betty Neese
Candace Davies
Andrea Eisen and Daniel Pomp
Mimi Fountain
Robert Hogan
Verla Insko
Melissa Israel
Sheila Kerrigan
Laura and John Kiley
Susan Lindsay
Deborah Love
Harriet and DG Martin
Diana Mead
Kathryn Meyers
Sheila Northen
Patrick and Mary Norris Oglesby
Luke and Bob Page
Mary and Frank Penta
Elizabeth Preddy
Bill and Nancy Rickard
Sharon and Chris Ringwalt
Mary Jane Rivers
Deborah Roach
Melody Harrison Savage
Robert Seymour
Carol Stamm
Susanna and Stedman Stevens
Denise Ramsey Vanderwoude
John and Ashley Wilson
Mia Xavier
Art Show Committee
Peggy Masse, Co-Chair
Libby Buck
Sarah Forbes
Ann J. Gerhardt
Sherry Grooms
Jacquelin Liggins
Jane Leserman Madison
Alice Dodds May

Holly Gunning, Co-Chair
Marya McNeish
Cathy Meerbergen
Mary Moore
Laura Morrison
Moreton Neal
Ilyasah N Shabazz
Artists
Lynne Albert, Chapel Hill
Mary Ann Anderson, Chapel Hill
Katherine Armacost, Chapel Hill
Judy Bauman, Chapel Hill
Vidabeth Bensen, Pittsboro
Lois Bronstein, Durham
Becky Campion
Catherine Carter, Chapel Hill
Nell Chandler, Hillsborough
Connie Cohn, Carrboro
Debbie Cox, Durham
Esther Cruz, Durham
Kathleen Dautel, Raleigh
Bunie Deyo, Cary
Nancy Diciolla, Whitsett
Veronica Duncan
Carmen Elliot, Chapel Hill
Kristin Esterley, Chapel Hill
Serena Fenton, Chapel Hill
Jane Filer, Chapel Hill
Susan Filley, Chapel Hill
Karen Fisher, Chapel Hill
Aud Ackerman, Chapel Hill
BJ Fusaro
Peg Gignoux, Chapel Hill
Kathleen Gwinnett, Burlington
Tayitta Hadar, Chapel Hill
Martha Hamblin, Mebane
Betty Haskin, Chapel Hill
Erin Hathaway, Durham
Barbara Higgins, Carrboro
Ellen Stark Hill, Chapel Hill
Ame Hughes, Burlington
Susie Huser, Hillsborough
Jennifer James
Sally Kahler, Chapel Hill
Fay Kalman, Chapel Hill
Bernice Koff, Chapel Hill
Keysha Koy
Marcy Lansman, Chapel Hill
Cinnamon Larson, Chapel Hill
Jean LeCluyse, Chapel Hill
Emily Lees, Chapel Hill
Jane Leserman Madison, Durham
Jacquelin Liggins, Mebane
Marcy Little, Durham
Jo Lovorn, Hillsborough
Alice Dodds May, Chapel Hill
Pat Merriman, Chapel Hill
Sandy Milroy, Chapel Hill
Sharmin Mirman, Carrboro
Alice Moore, Hillsborough
Mary Rountree Moore, Chapel Hill
Margret Mueller, Mebane
Joan Nesbitt Mabe, Carrboro
Shannon O’Connor, Chapel Hill
Jenifer Padilla, Pittsboro
Charlotte Pamplin
Kaola Phoenix, Chapel Hill
Sally Pillsbury, Hillsborough
Bepi Pinner, Durham
Elizabeth Cate Pringle, Chapel Hill
Della Quinn-Carter, Hampstead
Sudie Rakusin, Hillsborough
Marjorie S. Rawson, Chelsea
Carol Retsch-Bogart, Chapel Hill
Ebeth Scott-Sinclair, Chapel Hill
Promila Sen, Chapel Hill
Karen Smith
Nancy Smith, Carrboro
Andrea Snyder, Pittsboro
Leigh Stailen, Chapel Hill
Dr. Jane Steelman, Wake Forest
Jeanette Stokes
Valerie Tan, Chapel Hill
Fay Terry, Pinehurst
Donna Thome, Raleigh
Kathy Tice Phillips, Greensboro
Betsy Vaden, Chapel Hill
Nan Van Der Puy, Chapel Hill
Kathy A. Veverka, Florence
Rose Warner, Chapel Hill
Emily Weinstein, Chapel Hill
Monnda Welch, Pittsboro
Kim Werfel, Pittsboro
Jewel Wheeler
Ruth Winchester Ware, Durham
Anita Wolfenden, Chapel Hill

Domestic Violence and Homelessness

Domestic Violence and Homelessness

The Orange County Partnership to End Homelessness participates in a statewide count of homeless individuals every January during the annual A Point in Time event.  During this count, agencies that work with the homeless population go out into the community and look within their own agencies to assess the number of people without a place to stay for the night.  This year Compass Center for Women and Families will be participating in the count.

As an agency offering domestic violence crisis services, Compass Center sees a variety of issues that come as a result of abuse including emotional distress, financial difficulty, and physical injury. During this time of year when the A Point in Time count occurs, we are reminded of one of the most pressing issues for some of our clients — homelessness.

When a victim of domestic violence manages to escape an abusive situation, it is often without the financial or social means to thrive on their own.  As part of the cycle of abuse, abusers often isolate their victim from friends and family, decide whether or not they can work, and control the finances.  Under these circumstances, a victim of abuse has few choices of where to go when leaving an abuser and is often forced into a state of homelessness to avoid returning to the abuser.

Women who leave an abuser without a stable place to go are also more likely to end up back with the abuser to avoid homelessness or end up in another abusive relationship because of their vulnerable state.  The National Coalition for the Homeless reports that 63% of homeless women have been victims of domestic abuse.  This number reflects how much domestic violence influences the lives of the homeless female population.

We must recognize the huge impact homelessness has on our community.  To do this we must look at the causes of homelessness and try and work towards change at the root of the problem. Whether that means preventing domestic violence, helping to treat those with persistent mental illness, or connecting clients to financial resources, Compass Center is a part of that effort in Orange County to help end the cycle of homelessness.

Gender-based Violence: A Global “Silent” Epidemic

Gender-based Violence: A Global “Silent” Epidemic

1 in 3 women globally in 2010 experienced violence at the hands of an intimate partner. In 20 of 24 countries, most women tell no one they experienced violence. On average, only seven percent of women who experienced violence ever reported it to a formal source.

Early last month, The Daily Beast covered an alarming study on global gender-based violence. In this study assisted by Amber Peterman, of University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and Jennifer Bleck, lead researcher Tia Palermo reveals the silence and obscurity of gender-based violence. Around the world, gender-based violence is being overlooked, as victims fear coming forward, along with numerous systems that fail to protect women. Gender-based violence is any act of physical, sexual, psychological or economic harm or suffering, whether occurring in public or in private, based on one’s gender.

“Women don’t trust the formal sector,” said Ravi Verma, director of the Asia Regional Office in New Delhi of the D.C.-based International Center for Research on Women. “The police system is deeply entrenched into the same notions of patriarchy and gender inequitable perspectives and women don’t feel comfortable that they will be heard or their report will be taken in the right spirit.”

Instead, women are more likely to turn to friends and family. Women have found that formal institutions don’t work in low-income or underdeveloped areas; therefore, they seek help from those they can trust.

Among the top reasons for women not reporting abuse were embarrassment, fear, a belief that disclosure was pointless, and the notion that women must endure violence because it is a normal part of life.

Compass Center for Women and Families offers domestic violence crisis services, including support groups and a 24-hour crisis hotline: 919-929-7122. If you or someone you know may be experiencing abuse, we are here to listen and lend support.

For more information on this report, click here for The Daily Beast’s article.

Use Twitter to Find Your Next Job

Use Twitter to Find Your Next Job

Social media is increasingly becoming more important to employers. Twitter is a great resource to use in your job search. Mashable shared websites and Twitter handles for you to follow. These resources can assist you in finding your next career.

TwitJobSearch: This site allows you to search for jobs posted on Twitter using keywords (for example, “Marketing in New York”).

TweetMyJobs: TweetMyJobs will send you personalized job listings via email, Twitter or your mobile device.

Twellow: Twellow organizes Twitter users by category, making it easier to find the right recruiters and influencers to follow in your job search.

@JobHuntOrg: Susan P. Joyce tweets on behalf of Job-Hunt.org, posting U.S. job listings, career advice and helpful articles for job seekers.

@LinkedIn_Jobs: As the premier social media resource for professionals, connecting to LinkedIn is a must for modern job seekers.

@CraigslistJobs: Incorporate Craigslist into your Twitter feed to receive job postings from across the United States.

@UndercoverRec: This Twitter feed from the social media marketing firm LinkHumans shares articles about cover letters, resume building and interviewing tips from the Undercover Recruiter blog.

@HeatherHuhman: Heather R. Huhman, founder of the content and digital marketing PR firm Come Recommended, doles out job advice tailored to Gen Y job seekers.

@BrazenCareerist: Tweets from the Brazen Careerist website include links to webinars, virtual career fairs and recruitment events.

@Careerealism: From the website of the same name, Careerealism shares no-nonsense blog posts about recruitment and networking.

In addition to these resources, it is important to maintain a professional image on your social networks. While these can be used to share updates on your personal life, “think before you tweet.” Write a Twitter bio that will give potential employers a snapshot of your qualities. Also, be sure your profile image is professional.

An Evening of Story and Song Raises Nearly $15,000!

An Evening of Story and Song Raises Nearly $15,000!

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It was a little bit difficult last Friday night to discern who was having more fun at the Varsity Theater…the audience or the performers?! Local authors Lee Smith and Jill McCorkle teamed up with Nashville musicians Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg to thrill the packed house at the Varsity with readings from the authors, lovely songs from the musicians and occasional music from all four! Lee Smith capped the evening by reminding all that some can write music, some can write stories, but all can extend support to Compass Center. When the lights had gone out and the artists finished signing merchandise, nearly $15,000 had come in to support Compass Center’s important work in the community. Big thanks to everyone that attended this wonderful and exciting event and to our generous sponsors — Molly Maid of Chapel Hill, Foster’s Market, Grapevine Distributors, the Varsity Theater, and Flyleaf Books.

Photo credit: Caperton Morton

LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

According to the 2013 study, “Technology, Teen Dating Violence and Abuse, and Bullying” by Urban Institute, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender teenagers are at a greater risk of dating abuse than heterosexuals.

Of the 3, 745 youth in 7th to 12th grades, in New York, Pennsylvania and New Jersey surveyed in the study, 6 percent of the respondents identified as LGBT.

Of the respondents:

  • 43 percent reported being victims of physical dating violence, compared to 29 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 59 percent reported emotional abuse, compared to 46 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 37 percent reported digital abuse and harassment, compared to 26 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 23 percent reported sexual coercion, compared to 12 percent of heterosexual youth.

Compass Center for Women and Families offers domestic violence crisis services to women, men and families. We work with women and men, regardless of sexual orientation, who are experiencing or have experienced emotional, verbal, physical, sexual or other forms of abuse. We provide information and options and allow those we assist to make their own choices about the best options for them. We can also help people who are unsure if their relationship is abusive and would like to talk to someone about this.

If you  or someone you know is in need of our services, call our 24-hour hotline: 919-929-7122 , or email Susan Friedman, Director of Domestic Violence Crisis Services.

Shop at Ten Thousand Villages on Dec. 19, 4-8 p.m.

Shop at Ten Thousand Villages on Dec. 19, 4-8 p.m.

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Ten Thousand Villages strives to create opportunities for artisans in developing countries to earn income by bringing their products and stories to our market through long-term fair trading relationships. Next Thursday, December 19, we will partner with Ten Thousand Villages for an in-store event to benefit women and families in our local community, as well as expose our friends and family to world artisan crafts, jewelry and personal accessories. Please join us at Ten Thousand Villages as we connect globally this holiday season.

Ten Thousand Villages
Shops at Eastgate (1800 E. Franklin St)
Thursday, Dec. 19
4-8 p.m.

We look forward to seeing you there!

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