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LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

According to the 2013 study, “Technology, Teen Dating Violence and Abuse, and Bullying” by Urban Institute, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender teenagers are at a greater risk of dating abuse than heterosexuals.

Of the 3, 745 youth in 7th to 12th grades, in New York, Pennsylvania and New Jersey surveyed in the study, 6 percent of the respondents identified as LGBT.

Of the respondents:

  • 43 percent reported being victims of physical dating violence, compared to 29 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 59 percent reported emotional abuse, compared to 46 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 37 percent reported digital abuse and harassment, compared to 26 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 23 percent reported sexual coercion, compared to 12 percent of heterosexual youth.

Compass Center for Women and Families offers domestic violence crisis services to women, men and families. We work with women and men, regardless of sexual orientation, who are experiencing or have experienced emotional, verbal, physical, sexual or other forms of abuse. We provide information and options and allow those we assist to make their own choices about the best options for them. We can also help people who are unsure if their relationship is abusive and would like to talk to someone about this.

If you  or someone you know is in need of our services, call our 24-hour hotline: 919-929-7122 , or email Susan Friedman, Director of Domestic Violence Crisis Services.

Shop at Ten Thousand Villages on Dec. 19, 4-8 p.m.

Shop at Ten Thousand Villages on Dec. 19, 4-8 p.m.

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Ten Thousand Villages strives to create opportunities for artisans in developing countries to earn income by bringing their products and stories to our market through long-term fair trading relationships. Next Thursday, December 19, we will partner with Ten Thousand Villages for an in-store event to benefit women and families in our local community, as well as expose our friends and family to world artisan crafts, jewelry and personal accessories. Please join us at Ten Thousand Villages as we connect globally this holiday season.

Ten Thousand Villages
Shops at Eastgate (1800 E. Franklin St)
Thursday, Dec. 19
4-8 p.m.

We look forward to seeing you there!

Photos from the Royal Ball – October 4, 2013

Photos from the Royal Ball – October 4, 2013

On October 4, The Greater Chapel Hill Association of Realtors hosted The Royal Ball for the benefit of Family Violence and Domestic Abuse Victims in observance of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Sabrina Short attended and took these wonderful photos!

 

 

 

 

How the Affordable Care Act (ACA) Affects Our Work

How the Affordable Care Act (ACA) Affects Our Work

On October 23, Futures without Violence in San Francisco, CA hosted a webinar titled “What Domestic Violence Advocated Need to Know About How New Health Policy Changes Can Help Survivors of Domestic Violence.” Domestic Violence victims have historically faced health care discrimination and with these new changes of increased screening and counseling, there will be an increased number of patients identified as domestic violence victims. As a result, we should see an increase in the number of individuals needing domestic violence services. Below are highlights from this webinar. To view resources from the webinar, visit Futures without Violence’s website. For additional information, visit healthcare.gov.

  • As part of the ACA (aka Obamacare aka Health Reform) –
    • Beginning 08/2012 – health plans must cover screening and counseling for lifetime exposure to DV and IPV as core women’s preventive health benefit
    • Beginning 01/2014 – insurance companies are prohibited from denying coverage to victims of DV as preexisting condition
    • Home visitation (programs for new moms or moms-to-be to help them with issues) – there are new federal benchmarks for home visitation for DV screening
  • ACA offers Marketplaces (“Exchanges”) as new way to buy private health insurance – Insurance coverage starts 01/01/2014
    • All plans on ACA Marketplace must include these benefits: Ambulatory, Maternity/newborn care, Mental health and substance abuse treatment, Prescription drugs, Preventive and wellness services (this includes IPV services!), Etc.
    • Who is eligible?
      • Live in state served by Marketplace, be a citizen or national of US, not incarcerated
      • Lawfully present immigrants (including individuals who are subject to 5-year immigration bar)
      • Undocumented immigrants cannot get coverage, but they can get coverage for their lawfully present relatives
    • Enrollment Assistance
  • Medicaid 101
    • Implications of state NOT expanding Medicaid (We did not expand Medicaid, so this applies to us in NC)
      • Nearly all children, adults, as well as parents with incomes above current eligibility levels, will be ineligible for Medicaid
      • None of the states NOT expanding Medicaid offer separate Medicaid-comparable coverage for childless adults
      • Adults below 100% FPL but above current state eligibility (median 42% FPL) will not be eligible for federal help to buy private coverage
      • In other words, this population likely remains uninsured in Sates that don’t expand Medicaid
    • Medicaid Benefits
      • Coverage for expansion populations will be offered through Alternative Benefit Packages
        • Medicaid Managed Care
      • Must include Essential Health Benefits package in ABP(including screening for IPV)
      • Important to remember that these are coverage requirement, not new requirements for providers
    • New ACA Benefits for Women
      • Women will have new access to coverage of a range of preventive health screenings, including a package of women’s preventive services
      • This includes screening and brief counseling for IPV
  • Screening and Brief Counseling for DV/IPV
    • What does screening cover?
      • Broadly defined and will vary from plan to plan
      • HHS says that it may consist of a few, brief, open-ended questions
      • Futures can provide examples of screening tools – such as brochure-based assessment – which can be effective
    • What does brief counseling cover?
      • Counseling benefit is not defined and will vary from plan to plan
      • HHS has said that counseling provides basic information, referrals, tools, safety plans, and provider education tools
    • How often can a woman receive the benefit?
      • At least 1 per year
      • No federal restrictions on the number of times a plan will reimburse for screening and counseling
      • Plans will set limits on what they will cover
    • Where does screening/brief counseling take place?
      • Anywhere; no limits on settings where screening can take place
      • Plans will make setting-specific decisions
      • Advocates may have role in reaching out to plans and encouraging a comprehensive response!
  • How might this impact DV/SA programs?
    • Recommendations for more screening/brief counseling could result in:
      • Increased referrals (eventually)
      • Increased training requests
      • New partnerships
      • Unintended consequences (reporting, privacy, poorly trained providers)
      • Reaching more women with prevention and intervention messages
      • May eventually create new funding streams
    • What can you do?
      • Advocates as part of care team:
        • Health Resource Center is developing a memo on examples of reimbursement strategies for providers and advocates
        • Advocates as part of healthcare team

UPCOMING EVENT: An Evening of Story and Song with Lee Smith, Jill McCorkle, Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg | SOLD OUT!

UPCOMING EVENT: An Evening of Story and Song with Lee Smith, Jill McCorkle, Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg | SOLD OUT!

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Tea with Lee is taking to the big stage this year. Please join Compass Center as the Good Ol’ Girls reunite for an exciting Evening of Story and Song with Lee Smith, Jill McCorkle, Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg on Friday, December 6. Lee Smith will be joined by fellow author Jill McCorkle and Nashville headlining musicians Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg for an evening of story and song at the Varsity Theater.

Lee, Jill, Marshall and Matraca are the voices behind the popular Good Ol’ Girls musical, adapted and directed by UNC’s own Paul Ferguson, which Creative Loafing referred to as a “Southern classic.” The show will combine great music with fabulous down-home stories, all in support and celebration of women and families in our community. Don’t miss out on this special show, which is sure to be a good ol’ time!

Tickets for this event are sold out!

6 p.m. – Private reception will include appetizers with the artists!

7 p.m. – An Evening of story and song with Lee Smith, Jill McCorkle, Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg

An Evening of Story and Song is generously supported by Molly Maid, Foster’s Market and Grapevine Distributors.

For information on downtown Chapel Hill parking, click here.

Photos From Business After Hours – October 17, 2013

Photos From Business After Hours – October 17, 2013

On October 17, PTA Thrift Shop celebrated the ribbon cutting of their newest location and hosted one of Chapel Hill Chamber of Commerce’s Business After Hours. Compass Center for Women and Families, along with Extraordinary ventures were featured as nonprofit spotlights. Chapelboro.com attended and took these wonderful photos!

For more information on Compass Center’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month events, click here.

Six Tips for Helping a Loved One You Believe Is Being Abused

Six Tips for Helping a Loved One You Believe Is Being Abused
  1. Tell your loved one that she/ he don’t deserve to be treated badly and that no one deserves to be abused. This abuse is not their fault.
  1. Let your loved one know that there are ways to increase his/her safety, that she/he has options, and that, together, you can get the help that is needed. Compass Center for Women and Families can assist with the safety planning and with understanding options for dealing with the abusive situation.
  1. Tell this person what you have noticed that concerns you. Tell them that you believe (or know)  she/he is being hurt or controlled. Tell him/her that you are concerned for his/her safety.
  1. Avoid focusing on the abuser. Keep this person out of the conversation as much as possible. Remember -your loved one has strong feelings for this person. Focus on your loved one, his/her safety, and your love and concern for him/her.
  1. Encourage him/her to call the Compass Center for Women and Families 24-hour hotline to speak with an advocate or to come in for an appointment.
  1. As the loved one of someone who is being abused you can call Compass Center for Women and Families hotline and receive support, information and abuse education.

Community Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events

Community Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events

For a full list of Compass Center’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month events, click here.

DVAM is a time to acknowledge the impact of domestic violence on families in our community and stand in support of victims of abuse. With your support, we can start a dialogue and raise public awareness on domestic violence, an issue affecting thousands of families and couples in Orange County. Below, you will find a calendar of Domestic Violence Awareness Month/ Relationship Violence Awareness Month events in the community.

Domestic Violence Action Project’s Race to End Domestic Violence
Saturday, October 5
5 p.m. – UNC’s Finley Fields, Chapel Hill
Hosted by Domestic Violence Action Project

Raising Flags, Raising Awareness
Tuesday, October 1
5:30 p.m. – Pennies for Change
Hosted by Durham Crisis Response Center

Vintage Flea Sale
Sunday, October 6
1 p.m. – Pennies for Change
Hosted by Durham Crisis Response Center

(How) Can We Talk About Rape?
Monday, October 7
4 p.m. – Hyde Hall
Hosted by  by RAPE: Perceptions, Realities, Responses, the Program in Sexuality Studies and the Institute for the Arts and Humanities at UNC-Chapel Hill.

Campus Y Film Series: The Bro Code
Tuesday, October 8
7 p.m. – Bingham 103
Hosted by Project Dinah and SWAG

Panel on Men in Violence Prevention
Wednesday, October 9
5 p.m. – Campus Y Anne Queen Lounge
Hosted by Student Wellness, SWAG and One Act

Creating, Sustaining, and Supporting Healthy Relationships
Thursday, October 10
5 p.m. – Student Union
Hosted by One Act

Ben & Jerry’s Benefit Night for the OCRCC
Sunday, October 13
1-9 p.m. – Ben & Jerry’s on Franklin St.
Hosted by OCRCC and Project Dinah

Campus Y Film Series: Flirting with Danger
Monday, October 14
7 p.m. – Murphy 116
Hosted by SWAG and Project Dinah

CBW and EmBrACE Film Screening: Enough
Tuesday, October 15
6:30 p.m. – Dey 305
Hosted by Black Student Movement

Campus Y Film Series: The Invisible War
Tuesday, October 22
7 p.m. – Varsity Theatre on Franklin St
Hosted by SWAG and Project Dinah

Carolina Men Care (UNC Hospitals Beacon Program)
Tuesday, October 22
10 a.m. – 1 p.m. – UNC Children’s Hospital Lobby
Hosted by UNC Hospital’s Beacon Child and Family Program

The Audacity to Heal
Wednesday, October 23
7:30 p.m. – Stone Center Auditorium
Hosted by UNC-Chapel Hill Dept. of Women’s and Gender Studies

Arts, Activism and Advocacy
Thursday, October 24
10 a.m. – Stone Center Hitchcock Room
Hosted by UNC-Chapel Hill Dept. of Women’s and Gender Studies

Secondary Survivors Workshop
Monday, October 28
6 p.m. – Student Union Rm. 3102
Hosted by Student Wellness

Campus Y Film Series: Miss Representation
Tuesday, October 29
7 p.m. – Union Auditorium
Hosted by One Act and Project Dinah

Thank You Molly Maid Chapel Hill!

Thank You Molly Maid Chapel Hill!

Since 1996, Ms. Molly Maid Foundation has empowered communities and supported the domestic violence awareness cause. More than a house cleaning service, Molly Maid builds relationships with the community to ensure women, men and families feel safe in their homes. Molly Maid began their relationship with Family Violence Prevention Center (FVPC) prior to their merger with The Women’s Center to become Compass Center. Annually, FVPC would host a silent auction fundraiser. With a small board, FVPC was often pressed for resources and time, and Dave and Mary Dickinson from Molly Maid Chapel Hill would step up to help.

“When helping was too time-consuming for others, Molly Maid was always there putting in their time and effort,” says Jane Leserman-Madison, former FVPC and Compass Center board member. “There is no other sponsor that I know of that puts that kind of energy, time and devotion into helping others.”

As time wore on, Dave and Mary became more than sponsors. They became friends and supporters committed to the creative and strategic processes necessary to raise awareness on domestic violence. Dave and Mary were hands-on and helped gather auction items, manage logistics and provide resources. Dave also served on the FVPC board of directors.

Around the time of the merger, Dave and Mary transitioned the business to their daughter Kathy and her husband Don, who are equally committed to the cause. Each year, Molly Maid holds a fundraiser to garner funds and support for domestic violence awareness. Employees work tirelessly sending out letters, solicitation requests to all customers and supporters. Further, throughout the month of October, a portion of all cleans go to support the domestic violence cause through Molly Maid’s Making a Difference drive. Money raised is then distributed to three locations in the area. In addition, our local Molly Maid cleans both our Henderson and Wilson St. offices for free once a month. As we reflect this October during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Compass Center thanks Molly Maid for their support and commitment to the domestic violence awareness cause.

How Can I Help? A Guide for Families, Friends and Others

How Can I Help? A Guide for Families, Friends and Others

Abusive relationships have devastating effects on everyone. Anyone in an intimate relationship can be abused. It can be difficult to discuss the abuse and to seek help. You can help if you think someone you care about is being abused.

Remember two important things when helping someone who is being abused:

  1. Change takes time.
  2. There is no single “right way” to help. The important thing is that you be there to support them in their decisions.

For people who have not been in an abusive relationship, it may be difficult to understand why a victim remains in a relationship and even “ covers up” for his/her partner. Both of these behaviors can be a direct result of living with a controlling partner. That person’s apparent indecisiveness and loyalty are essential tactics that she/he uses to survive. This does not mean that your loved one does not need and value your help. In fact, just the opposite is most likely true.

The hardest part of talking to a person who you believe is being abused is getting started. Be sure you have enough time and privacy for the discussion. The first conversation may not be easy but, to be of help, you must begin. Here are some suggestions to get started:

  • You seem unhappy.  Do you want to talk about it?
  • What is it like at home for you?
  • What happens when you and your partner disagree or argue?
  • Are you scared of him/her? Does she/he threaten you?
  • How does your partner handle things when she/he doesn’t get her/his way? What does he/ she do?

Support her/him for talking to you; she/he has taken a risk. Let him/her know that you appreciate what they have done and consider their feelings reasonable and normal. Let the other person lead the conversation. She/he needs you to be a good listener. Many people who are abused feel as though they don’t have options and are not able to get out of the abusive relationship. Talking with a loved one or a domestic violence advocate will help them to believe that options may exist. You can learn about domestic violence so you understand as much as possible about what they are experiencing.

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