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Compass Center Aims to Prevent, End Domestic Violence- WNCN News Story

Compass Center Aims to Prevent, End Domestic Violence- WNCN News Story

Urgent Needs for our Domestic Violence Clients

Urgent Needs for our Domestic Violence Clients

Domestic violence affects women, men and children in our country, state and local communities. While the most important way to support domestic violence is to educate yourself and others on the realities of this issue, there are tangible items needed to help victims of domestic violence in crisis. Below are some of Compass Center’s supply needs. Please donate to our cause today.

One $20 gas card donation:
– helps a client get to court in Hillsborough to file their domestic violence protective order.
– enables a client to attend their court hearings related to their domestic violence protective order.
– enables a client to travel to Hillsborough to attend court to follow through on criminal charges against their abuser.
– provides transportation for a victim to get to and from a medical provider or the emergency room following an incident of abuse in which there was physical trauma.

One $20 grocery card donation:
– pays for dinner and breakfast for a victim and child who have just entered emergency shelter placement.
– allows a victim to buy diapers and formula for her infant when she is going into shelter and does not have access to money due to financial abuse.
– pays for children’s snacks as they wait on their parent who is receiving domestic violence services.
– enables a victim to have food to eat the day they are fleeing their abusive partner, seeking shelter and working with the court system.

One used cell phone donation:
– can be traded in for career, legal and financial program funding for victims in transition

Men in our Community

Men in our Community

Volunteers are vital to the delivery of services at Compass Center for Women and Families. With the assistance of 200+ volunteers, we are able to serve 6,000 women, men and children in our community.  Issues surrounding career, legal, and financial needs and goals and domestic violence affect everyone. As an organization serving 90% women, we are eager to provide services to more men and to work with more male volunteers.

We are grateful for the male volunteers that have engaged with the agency to help deliver services. Men serve in many capacities at Compass Center. Below are examples of the work of some of our male volunteers:

Mark Phillips previously served on the Finance Committee for The Women’s Center. As vice president of Jacob’s Capital, a boutique investment banking firm in Chapel Hill, Mark brings a high level of expertise to Compass Center’s Board of Directors. Mark is currently treasurer of our board and has held this position since 2012.

John Miskey has led Compass Center’s monthly family law workshops for the past two years. As a partner with Bagwell Holt Smith, PA, John also participates in our legal information services appointments, offering a free 15-minute phone conversation to dozens monthly to discuss individual legal situations. John joined the Compass Center Board of Directors in July of 2014 and is currently leading the Executive Director search committee.

Jay Miller has volunteered as a financial counselor with Compass Center since 1999. As a financial counselor, Jay meets one-on-one with individuals to help them budget, meet financial goals and develop businesses. Jay also serves as secretary of the Henderson Street House Foundation, which provides our client services facility at 210 Henderson St. rent free.

Cole van de Water began serving as a hotline advocate in 2011. As an advocate, Cole meets in-person with clients in crisis, as well as takes phone calls to offer emotional support, help individuals complete domestic violence protective orders and provide information and referral when appropriate.

Bob Pleasants trained as a hotline advocate and community educator and later joined staff. More recently, Bob has volunteered his time to lead a session on the socio-ecological model of domestic violence for new hotline advocates during our fall and spring volunteer trainings.

Having a male presence in the Center is important to us, as we want anyone to feel comfortable walking through our doors. In addition to providing support to our clients through their involvement, our male volunteers are then able to go back and spread the word of our services and educate others. If you know a man who could contribute to Compass Center by volunteering or using our services, please visit www.compassctr.org or call us at 919-968-4610.CC Indy Photo

Start Transforming Your Resume Right Now

Start Transforming Your Resume Right Now
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Stand out among other applicants by adding the following 3 items to your resume. Your resume should be tailored to each employer, as what you have to offer may differ for each job — sometimes slightly, sometimes greatly.

Executive SummaryWho are you? How much experience do you have? What are the top skills you can bring to an employer? Your executive summary (also known as “Summary of Qualifications”) speaks directly to the employer. If an employer were only to look at the top one-third of your resume, does s/he know everything you want him/her to?
SkillsWhat do you know how to do that is relevant to the job you’re applying for? Look at the job description for each job as a starting point. List your skills as it applies individually to each position. Whether it be hard/soft skills, the employer wants to know that you can do what they’re asking for. Don’t be subtle — tell them why you’re perfect!
Significant Work ExperiencesWhat did you achieve at each of your former jobs? What will you be required to do in this position you’re applying for? If the job you held 10-15 years ago holds significant value, feel free to include it on your resume if you haven’t had a similar experience more recently.

Want to go a step further in your career exploration process? Call Compass Center to set up a one-on-one career advising appointment at 919-968-4610. Also, be on the lookout for upcoming career workshops.

Thank You for Participating in the 2014 Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands!

Thank You for Participating in the 2014 Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands!

On March 7, more than 200 guests gathered at Top of the Hill’s Great Room for our annual Through Women’s Eyes, By Women’s Hands Art Exhibition and Sale. 5″ x 7″ anonymous mini-masterpieces from new and seasoned area women artists were available to view and purchase. Fabulous pieces by Andria Linn, John Rosenthal, John Svara, Barbara Tyroler and Renee Leverty were auctioned off and a dozen prizes were up for grabs in this year’s raffle drawing. Thanks to the support of many, we raised more than $54,000 to support our programs and services. We couldn’t have done it without the support of the community. Thank you! Photo Credit: Laura Shmania

Photo Credit: Laura Shmania

Presenting Sponsor
DWM Advisors

Gold Sponsors
Peggy and Gary Masse

Silver Sponsors
Anonymous
Clarkston Consulting
Performance AutoMall
UNC Health Care

Bronze Sponsors
Brock & Meece, P.A.
Counter Culture Coffee
Education and Training Systems, Intl., Inc
Franklin St. Partners
Gillian and Peter Hare
Grace Pilafian Landscaping
Lewis Anderson, PLLC
PHE
Tammi Brooks/501 Realty

Media Sponsors
Art Guide Now
Carolina Woman
Chapel Hill Magazine
News & Observer
WCHL
WUNC

Dessert Sponsors
Comfort Spot
Karin Mills, Spotted Dog
Mama Dip’s Kitchen
Moira Smullen
Springsfavoritethings.com

Friends Sponsors
Bagwell Holt
Bell Leadership
Donna Bennick
Jacob’s Capital
Ipas
Leah Ogden, Raymond James
Management Services on Call
Michael Jordan Nissan
Minta Bell
Nelson and Company
Peaches N Cream
Rho
Ritter Endodontics
Southern Village Pediatric Dentistry
Steve Pike, Investors Trust
Triangle Neuropsychology
Woodmansee and Szombatfalvy

In-Kind Sponsors
Cameron’s
Chapel Hill Toffee
DSI Comedy
Fearrington House Country Inn
Framer’s Corner
Healing Earth Resources
Ken Broun Jazz Group
Molly Maid of Chapel Hill
Shutterfly
Spira Pilates Studio
Top of the Hill
Trader Joe’s
Walt Disney Theme Parks
Wine and Design + Venable

Golden Circle Sponsors
Christine and Gerald Bell
Libby and Lee Buck
Perry Colwell and Betty Neese
Candace Davies
Andrea Eisen and Daniel Pomp
Mimi Fountain
Robert Hogan
Verla Insko
Melissa Israel
Sheila Kerrigan
Laura and John Kiley
Susan Lindsay
Deborah Love
Harriet and DG Martin
Diana Mead
Kathryn Meyers
Sheila Northen
Patrick and Mary Norris Oglesby
Luke and Bob Page
Mary and Frank Penta
Elizabeth Preddy
Bill and Nancy Rickard
Sharon and Chris Ringwalt
Mary Jane Rivers
Deborah Roach
Melody Harrison Savage
Robert Seymour
Carol Stamm
Susanna and Stedman Stevens
Denise Ramsey Vanderwoude
John and Ashley Wilson
Mia Xavier
Art Show Committee
Peggy Masse, Co-Chair
Libby Buck
Sarah Forbes
Ann J. Gerhardt
Sherry Grooms
Jacquelin Liggins
Jane Leserman Madison
Alice Dodds May

Holly Gunning, Co-Chair
Marya McNeish
Cathy Meerbergen
Mary Moore
Laura Morrison
Moreton Neal
Ilyasah N Shabazz
Artists
Lynne Albert, Chapel Hill
Mary Ann Anderson, Chapel Hill
Katherine Armacost, Chapel Hill
Judy Bauman, Chapel Hill
Vidabeth Bensen, Pittsboro
Lois Bronstein, Durham
Becky Campion
Catherine Carter, Chapel Hill
Nell Chandler, Hillsborough
Connie Cohn, Carrboro
Debbie Cox, Durham
Esther Cruz, Durham
Kathleen Dautel, Raleigh
Bunie Deyo, Cary
Nancy Diciolla, Whitsett
Veronica Duncan
Carmen Elliot, Chapel Hill
Kristin Esterley, Chapel Hill
Serena Fenton, Chapel Hill
Jane Filer, Chapel Hill
Susan Filley, Chapel Hill
Karen Fisher, Chapel Hill
Aud Ackerman, Chapel Hill
BJ Fusaro
Peg Gignoux, Chapel Hill
Kathleen Gwinnett, Burlington
Tayitta Hadar, Chapel Hill
Martha Hamblin, Mebane
Betty Haskin, Chapel Hill
Erin Hathaway, Durham
Barbara Higgins, Carrboro
Ellen Stark Hill, Chapel Hill
Ame Hughes, Burlington
Susie Huser, Hillsborough
Jennifer James
Sally Kahler, Chapel Hill
Fay Kalman, Chapel Hill
Bernice Koff, Chapel Hill
Keysha Koy
Marcy Lansman, Chapel Hill
Cinnamon Larson, Chapel Hill
Jean LeCluyse, Chapel Hill
Emily Lees, Chapel Hill
Jane Leserman Madison, Durham
Jacquelin Liggins, Mebane
Marcy Little, Durham
Jo Lovorn, Hillsborough
Alice Dodds May, Chapel Hill
Pat Merriman, Chapel Hill
Sandy Milroy, Chapel Hill
Sharmin Mirman, Carrboro
Alice Moore, Hillsborough
Mary Rountree Moore, Chapel Hill
Margret Mueller, Mebane
Joan Nesbitt Mabe, Carrboro
Shannon O’Connor, Chapel Hill
Jenifer Padilla, Pittsboro
Charlotte Pamplin
Kaola Phoenix, Chapel Hill
Sally Pillsbury, Hillsborough
Bepi Pinner, Durham
Elizabeth Cate Pringle, Chapel Hill
Della Quinn-Carter, Hampstead
Sudie Rakusin, Hillsborough
Marjorie S. Rawson, Chelsea
Carol Retsch-Bogart, Chapel Hill
Ebeth Scott-Sinclair, Chapel Hill
Promila Sen, Chapel Hill
Karen Smith
Nancy Smith, Carrboro
Andrea Snyder, Pittsboro
Leigh Stailen, Chapel Hill
Dr. Jane Steelman, Wake Forest
Jeanette Stokes
Valerie Tan, Chapel Hill
Fay Terry, Pinehurst
Donna Thome, Raleigh
Kathy Tice Phillips, Greensboro
Betsy Vaden, Chapel Hill
Nan Van Der Puy, Chapel Hill
Kathy A. Veverka, Florence
Rose Warner, Chapel Hill
Emily Weinstein, Chapel Hill
Monnda Welch, Pittsboro
Kim Werfel, Pittsboro
Jewel Wheeler
Ruth Winchester Ware, Durham
Anita Wolfenden, Chapel Hill

Domestic Violence and Homelessness

Domestic Violence and Homelessness

The Orange County Partnership to End Homelessness participates in a statewide count of homeless individuals every January during the annual A Point in Time event.  During this count, agencies that work with the homeless population go out into the community and look within their own agencies to assess the number of people without a place to stay for the night.  This year Compass Center for Women and Families will be participating in the count.

As an agency offering domestic violence crisis services, Compass Center sees a variety of issues that come as a result of abuse including emotional distress, financial difficulty, and physical injury. During this time of year when the A Point in Time count occurs, we are reminded of one of the most pressing issues for some of our clients — homelessness.

When a victim of domestic violence manages to escape an abusive situation, it is often without the financial or social means to thrive on their own.  As part of the cycle of abuse, abusers often isolate their victim from friends and family, decide whether or not they can work, and control the finances.  Under these circumstances, a victim of abuse has few choices of where to go when leaving an abuser and is often forced into a state of homelessness to avoid returning to the abuser.

Women who leave an abuser without a stable place to go are also more likely to end up back with the abuser to avoid homelessness or end up in another abusive relationship because of their vulnerable state.  The National Coalition for the Homeless reports that 63% of homeless women have been victims of domestic abuse.  This number reflects how much domestic violence influences the lives of the homeless female population.

We must recognize the huge impact homelessness has on our community.  To do this we must look at the causes of homelessness and try and work towards change at the root of the problem. Whether that means preventing domestic violence, helping to treat those with persistent mental illness, or connecting clients to financial resources, Compass Center is a part of that effort in Orange County to help end the cycle of homelessness.

Gender-based Violence: A Global “Silent” Epidemic

Gender-based Violence: A Global “Silent” Epidemic

1 in 3 women globally in 2010 experienced violence at the hands of an intimate partner. In 20 of 24 countries, most women tell no one they experienced violence. On average, only seven percent of women who experienced violence ever reported it to a formal source.

Early last month, The Daily Beast covered an alarming study on global gender-based violence. In this study assisted by Amber Peterman, of University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and Jennifer Bleck, lead researcher Tia Palermo reveals the silence and obscurity of gender-based violence. Around the world, gender-based violence is being overlooked, as victims fear coming forward, along with numerous systems that fail to protect women. Gender-based violence is any act of physical, sexual, psychological or economic harm or suffering, whether occurring in public or in private, based on one’s gender.

“Women don’t trust the formal sector,” said Ravi Verma, director of the Asia Regional Office in New Delhi of the D.C.-based International Center for Research on Women. “The police system is deeply entrenched into the same notions of patriarchy and gender inequitable perspectives and women don’t feel comfortable that they will be heard or their report will be taken in the right spirit.”

Instead, women are more likely to turn to friends and family. Women have found that formal institutions don’t work in low-income or underdeveloped areas; therefore, they seek help from those they can trust.

Among the top reasons for women not reporting abuse were embarrassment, fear, a belief that disclosure was pointless, and the notion that women must endure violence because it is a normal part of life.

Compass Center for Women and Families offers domestic violence crisis services, including support groups and a 24-hour crisis hotline: 919-929-7122. If you or someone you know may be experiencing abuse, we are here to listen and lend support.

For more information on this report, click here for The Daily Beast’s article.

Use Twitter to Find Your Next Job

Use Twitter to Find Your Next Job

Social media is increasingly becoming more important to employers. Twitter is a great resource to use in your job search. Mashable shared websites and Twitter handles for you to follow. These resources can assist you in finding your next career.

TwitJobSearch: This site allows you to search for jobs posted on Twitter using keywords (for example, “Marketing in New York”).

TweetMyJobs: TweetMyJobs will send you personalized job listings via email, Twitter or your mobile device.

Twellow: Twellow organizes Twitter users by category, making it easier to find the right recruiters and influencers to follow in your job search.

@JobHuntOrg: Susan P. Joyce tweets on behalf of Job-Hunt.org, posting U.S. job listings, career advice and helpful articles for job seekers.

@LinkedIn_Jobs: As the premier social media resource for professionals, connecting to LinkedIn is a must for modern job seekers.

@CraigslistJobs: Incorporate Craigslist into your Twitter feed to receive job postings from across the United States.

@UndercoverRec: This Twitter feed from the social media marketing firm LinkHumans shares articles about cover letters, resume building and interviewing tips from the Undercover Recruiter blog.

@HeatherHuhman: Heather R. Huhman, founder of the content and digital marketing PR firm Come Recommended, doles out job advice tailored to Gen Y job seekers.

@BrazenCareerist: Tweets from the Brazen Careerist website include links to webinars, virtual career fairs and recruitment events.

@Careerealism: From the website of the same name, Careerealism shares no-nonsense blog posts about recruitment and networking.

In addition to these resources, it is important to maintain a professional image on your social networks. While these can be used to share updates on your personal life, “think before you tweet.” Write a Twitter bio that will give potential employers a snapshot of your qualities. Also, be sure your profile image is professional.

An Evening of Story and Song Raises Nearly $15,000!

An Evening of Story and Song Raises Nearly $15,000!

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It was a little bit difficult last Friday night to discern who was having more fun at the Varsity Theater…the audience or the performers?! Local authors Lee Smith and Jill McCorkle teamed up with Nashville musicians Marshall Chapman and Matraca Berg to thrill the packed house at the Varsity with readings from the authors, lovely songs from the musicians and occasional music from all four! Lee Smith capped the evening by reminding all that some can write music, some can write stories, but all can extend support to Compass Center. When the lights had gone out and the artists finished signing merchandise, nearly $15,000 had come in to support Compass Center’s important work in the community. Big thanks to everyone that attended this wonderful and exciting event and to our generous sponsors — Molly Maid of Chapel Hill, Foster’s Market, Grapevine Distributors, the Varsity Theater, and Flyleaf Books.

Photo credit: Caperton Morton

LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

LGBT Teens at Higher Risk of Being Victims of Domestic Violence

According to the 2013 study, “Technology, Teen Dating Violence and Abuse, and Bullying” by Urban Institute, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender teenagers are at a greater risk of dating abuse than heterosexuals.

Of the 3, 745 youth in 7th to 12th grades, in New York, Pennsylvania and New Jersey surveyed in the study, 6 percent of the respondents identified as LGBT.

Of the respondents:

  • 43 percent reported being victims of physical dating violence, compared to 29 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 59 percent reported emotional abuse, compared to 46 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 37 percent reported digital abuse and harassment, compared to 26 percent of heterosexual youth.
  • 23 percent reported sexual coercion, compared to 12 percent of heterosexual youth.

Compass Center for Women and Families offers domestic violence crisis services to women, men and families. We work with women and men, regardless of sexual orientation, who are experiencing or have experienced emotional, verbal, physical, sexual or other forms of abuse. We provide information and options and allow those we assist to make their own choices about the best options for them. We can also help people who are unsure if their relationship is abusive and would like to talk to someone about this.

If you  or someone you know is in need of our services, call our 24-hour hotline: 919-929-7122 , or email Susan Friedman, Director of Domestic Violence Crisis Services.

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